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  • I may or may not have creamed my pants a little at this comment.

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    I wrote about those damn Yale frat boys a couple of days ago. I’m sure you all rolled your eyes at me getting all riled up at what was obviously a bunch of idiots acting like idiots.

    But imagine my surprise when an article on Jezebel suggested we should all do just that. Chalk this one up to boys being boys, because they were obviously just trying to get attention.

    Oh yeah? Who the fuck cares? I think we should give them all the attention they want. In the form of anal rape, you say? No, that would be going too far.

    What these “boys” were proving was just how little respect they have for women. I’ll admit that hazing rituals make little sense to me in the first place, but please don’t try to tell me that the only way to humiliate a bunch of men is to have them yell misogynistic chants on a college campus. Why not post pictures of their tiny dicks on the internet? Why not parade them around campus in chaps? Why not find an embarrassing secret and expose it? Forcing them to endure humiliation shouldn’t require punishing others. Keep your fucking hazing to yourself.

    Jezebel, I’m disappointed in you. Both for acting like shouting “no means yes; yes means anal” is no big deal on a college campus, where rape is running rampant and is particularly associated with athletes and frat boys, and for focusing more on some necrophilia chant than on the message that rape is no big deal. Let’s not let this happen again, okay?

    Then, I got to this comment…and I felt all tingly in my bathing suit parts. CassandraSays? Let’s make out:

    What actually makes us look bad as feminists is being so ridiculously concerned about our image that we’re willing to sell out those of our college-aged sisters who may well be frightened by having to live in an environment in which stuff like this is taking place. Acting like it’s silly to be angry about men making rape into a joke, especially given the actual prevalence of rape on college campuses and its particular association with fraternities? That makes us look like complete imbeciles, as well as spineless and lacking the courage to stand up for our convictions.

    First of all, we are not the Borg, individual feminists get to choose the issues they care about and want to focus on. Secondly, if one was to put together a list of things that are feminist issues but fairly low priorities in a global sense, one might include, say, the debate about what men opening doors for women means socially speaking and whether it reinforces sexism. One would not put “some men think rape is funny” on that list, nor would one include “combating rape culture on college campuses and the role fraternities play in reinforcing it”. Not unless one was too weak to stand up to the pressure not to criticize sexism in ways that make people think one is just totally uncool and humorless, man.

    The idea that feminists are humorless and prone to overreacting is based on sexism. We don’t fix that by running around going “omg, if I talk about this will people think I’m humorless?”. We fix it by refusing to allow ourselves to be manipulated into adjusting our behavior so as not to make sexists uncomfortable.

    YES! Exactly.

    And I do think, as feminists, we have to be careful not to get pissed off about every little thing. I just don’t happen to believe this IS a little thing. Especially when rape on college campuses are practically commonplace and often goes unpunished.

  • Never mind, NOW I get it.

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    Dear Yale,

    You disgust me. I thought you were better than this.

    Love, Shine.

    I don’t know if you’ve seen this yet. It’s Monday morning, after all. Luckily, I haven’t eaten anything yet, because this turned my stomach.

    Headline on Alternet: Yale Frat Caught on Tape Chanting about Rape “No means Yes; Yes means Anal” (It’s short, go read it.)

    No WONDER rape is running rampant on college campuses. And what did the school administration do? Not a fucking thing.

    This should be completely unacceptable behavior on a college campus. Encouraging young men to have this kind of attitude about rape is not only disgusting, it’s dangerous.

  • I wonder if men can just get a degree in RAPE in college…

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    First, let me say this: I KNOW that not all men are rapists. In this case, I’m talking about the men who are.

    I just read this article on Alternet and I have to tell you…I feel almost sick. And sadly not surprised.

    If you don’t feel like reading the article, basically two male basketball players sexually assaulted a woman on campus. The woman reported the incident. The prosecutor declined to bring charges.

    What makes this case special (because sadly the lack of charges for rape on a college campus does not) is that one of the men who was involved in the sexual assault admitted that the woman didn’t want to have sex. He admitted that she said no. He stopped, but his friend kept going.

    Even the police, in this case, deemed this pretty damning evidence. A confession, if you will. But the prosecutor decided not to press charges on the athletes, saying that he’s not convinced that any force or coercion occurred (which flies in the face of the TESTIMONY by the ASSAULTER) and that the victim didn’t want to press charges (which has been denied by the woman in question and seems to fly in the face of her REPORTING IT to the POLICE).

    I’m sure there will be no punishment for this prosecutor, though I think someone should seriously question whether he’s fit to practice law.

    The athletes will probably also go without punishment.

    The sad fact is, sexual assault without consequence is far too common on college campuses. What’s even more sad is that college athletes learn early on that their actions have little consequence, and that, because they are special, they can do what they want. Then some of them grow up to play professional sports, make a lot of money, and retain the same bullshit no-responsibility attitude.

    Kobe Bryant still plays for the NBA.

    Michael Vick is back in the NFL.

    Donte Stallworth is back in the NFL.

    The list goes on. The message is clear. If you’re a male athlete, feel free to operate by your own rules. We won’t bother to hold you accountable.

    (I really can’t say whether or not this happens for female athletes, but I’ve never really heard anything about it.)

    What would I like to see?

    More prosecutions, more punishment. Women are not your playthings, the world does not bend to your will. There are laws, you must follow them.

    If you’re convicted of rape, you should, at the very least, be expelled from college. I think you should also have to repay any scholarship given to you by the university. Seem harsh? Maybe it will make these men STOP AND THINK before raping another woman. Yes, I said another. Often it doesn’t happen just once. Many of these student rapists become serial rapists.

    In my opinion, you shouldn’t be allowed back in the NFL, NBA, MLB, NHL, MLS after you’ve been convicted of a felony. ANY felony. And don’t start with the blah blah paid his debt to society bullshit. That may be, but you think a doctor who gets convicted of a felony gets to just skip right back into the practice of medicine? No.

    And yes, that would probably wipe out at least half of every NFL team.

    How pathetic is it that we glorify these people who don’t seem to ever learn the difference between right and wrong?

    I know that professional sports isn’t going to cooperate with me, but I don’t think that my suggestion for student rapists is out of line. You can get expelled for cheating, why not rape?